Are you a failure, or a student?

Are you a failure? I am. Many times over. Many! I have failed at my job, in business, as a parent, as a partner, a friend, and as an every-day person. Even more the point, I have failed at being a healthy every-day person. But how lucky am I? I am incredibly fortunate. Am I…

C = MT

Chemotherapy is horrible. There is no other way to describe it, other than with my newly developed unofficial formula of C=MT… Chemo is the equivalent of being hit by a Mack truck. I am no scientist, nor am I medically trained, but I am certainly experienced. Unfortunately, many others are too. After I was diagnosed…

The Promise…

Are you like me, and sometimes make promises to yourself that you don’t or can’t keep? You know, the whole New Year’s resolution scenario that we always have the intention of sticking to but never do? We like to promise to ourselves that we will eat better, exercise more, spend less, drink less, get healthy…

To my Mum, for Mother’s Day…

As I sit here, at your spot in the cemetery the day before Mother’s Day, the only tangible place I can visit you, I wonder… I was 16 when you died, and you were 46. I am that age now. I wonder what it was like for you to be that age and be my…

To all the beautiful women I love…

I love that you wear your PJ’s all day. I love that you have crazy, wild hair. I love that you take me to my place of zen. I love that you teach me to do things differently. I love that you trust me to share your vulnerability. I love that you cry with me….

Our rawest moment…

Going through Breast Cancer has been incredibly tough on my husband. He has been my rock throughout all of it.  We have been tested and pushed to our limits at times but we know we are stronger for it. It has been hard for Phil to watch all that I have endured and feel like…

The Education we didn’t want for our kids…

It feels only logical to tell my story in the order of events. Not to dwell on the trauma but to move through it. I am sensitive to the feelings of those around me who have experienced this journey with me and the fact that they are all processing their own emotions. Our children, particularly,…

Can you identify and manage your triggers?

We’ve all had the experience of hearing an old song that reminds us of when we first heard it, how old we were and what stage of life we were in at the time. Or maybe certain smells remind you of somewhere you have been and an experience you had. Most of the time these flashbacks…

Would you notice…?

How do you know if a strong person is coping? Or I guess even more so, the question should be how do you know if a strong person is NOT coping? What does it look like? Do you think you could recognise it? Think of a strong person that you know who has experienced trauma….

When the sky fell in…

Today is the 20th of March. It is not just any ordinary Monday. This day thirty years ago my Mum lost her battle with Cancer. It was the darkest, saddest day of my life. Still is. We watched her suffer for several years and it was heartbreaking. I was sixteen when she died and my sister…