How do we heal?

How do we begin to heal, and what does this even mean?

Many of you know my story. I lost both my Mum and Grandmother to cancer when I was 16. It was massive trauma that had a huge impact on my life from then on.

By the time I was 45 I had endured a range of adverse experiences, along with some amazing ones too, but I still felt empty.

Then I was diagnosed with breast cancer myself.

It was then, that I decided to stop living in survival mode and allow my own healing.

The signs were all there.

I cried every Mother’s Day, I cried every birthday, each time I looked in the mirror I hated what I saw. I cringed each time I had a photo taken, I thought I didn’t deserve to be happy, and I turned into a fixer. You could also call me a control freak!

All that trauma I had been through at such a young age threw a bit of a curve ball at my teenage brain and changed my way of thinking from most of my friends. This then created a lack of confidence and self worth in me that grew to epic proportions. By the time I was in my 30s I didn’t really care if I was here or not.

I suffered with depression and anxiety, and I was deeply unhappy. My soul wounds played out in my life through circumstances that were always filled with drama and challenges. There was never any joy.

As soon as I was diagnosed I decided to take responsibility for my life. I knew that the only way I was going to get through was to give myself permission to heal.

I looked within, stripped back my life and did the work. No one else could do it for me.

I immersed myself into understanding how I had reached that level of sadness, and what I learnt was nothing short of amazing.

I experienced mic drop after life changing mic drop! Everything began to make sense, and I could see the power of belief and the change it can create.

I studied a Diploma of Psychology through my adventure back to wellness also and gained the knowledge that helped me connect the dots of my past and create change for my future.

I had never realised how transformational my healing would be.

I really did change my life, and I really did become the happiest I had every been.

Breast cancer was the gift that created the me I am now.

As a result, three years ago I began working with women to help them change their feelings of doubt, sadness, needing to be in control, needing to be busy and stop the habit of putting themselves last.

As a coach, watching my clients transform their own lives is.. I’m not sure I can even find the words to describe my excitement.

I can see how they will change before they see it themselves.

Continuing this work has become my passion. It is in the simple daily actions that become part of your non-negotiable self care practices that will help you take your life to the next level.

To bring this work to the world, I am offering a FREE 5 day workshop called LOVE THE SKIN YOU’RE IN.

This is for all the women who are burnt out, sick of giving everything to others and having nothing left for themselves. It’s for all the women who don’t think they can change, and it’s for all the women who want to find themselves again. It’s also for all the women who have already been working on themselves but know there is something more out there for them.

All the details can be found here.

We start tomorrow, and I invite you to join me. Even if you don’t think you have the strength to participate, come and watch, and go at your own pace.

Love the Skin You’re In is a safe space and a supportive community.

There will be video lessons each day, fun and easy tasks to do at home, and also an opportunity to participate in a live Zoom call to be part of a group coaching session where you can ask your questions.

I hope you will join me.

It’s time to give yourself permission.

Claim your place.

See you there.

Ali x